Wednesday, August 21, 2013

God & Money: Christian Perspective

Good Christian talk on the context of Money & Marriage...

Cowardice vs. Courage: Progress Comes With Conflict

"Cowardice is impotence worse than violence. The coward desires revenge but being afraid to die, he looks to others, maybe to the government of the day, to do the work of defense for him. A coward is less than a man. He does not deserve to be a member of a society of men and women." - Mahatma Gandhi

The "Value" that my family and I detest the most...Cowardice is a trait wherein fear and excess self-concern override doing or saying what is right, good and of help to others or oneself in a time of need—it is the opposite of courage. As a label, "cowardice" indicates a failure of character in the face of a challenge.
Under many military codes of justice, cowardice in combat is a crime punishable by death (e.g. shot at dawn). The term describes a character flaw which has been shunned and disdained within most, if not all cultures, whilst courage, typically viewed as a virtue, is admired and encouraged.One thing I have learned over the years in love and work is that you should never give more of yourself than what the other party offers. If you do nothing but give and get nothing in return, it is not a balanced relationship. Also, if your going to sacrifice yourself for somebody or for work, make sure that they are doing the same for you. "Die for one who will die for you"...Don't let yourself be used, abused, and abandoned. Make sure you are taking care of yourself and strong in your foundation, only then can you help others and do anything of real benefit or value. Something else that comes to mind is that you need to make sure your values match with that of the other party, be it in a relationship or for business. If your other party does not value the things you value, they will treat your actions with contempt and will degrade you, because they simply can not understand certain concepts ie. Honor, Integrity, Loyalty, Dedication, etc. If somebody values money more than honor, then you don't have a chance. The reverse is also true, if your goal is money and you deal with somebody who values honor more, then you are going to have conflicts. Which that in and of itself is an issue. Only cowards run from conflict and due to their cowardice, they may abandon you instead of trying to work out the issue. Progress and success comes from conflict, without conflict you will never achieve anything of value. Instead, you will always be running away from your problems that will eventually catch up to you at some point. Overall, you need to treat people in a manner where they earn their respect from you, because people value things they earn more than things that are just given to them.

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

Here is the "Real" Secret: Husbands & Wives Who Have Sex At Least 4 Times A Week Make More Money

Put away all the Ultra-Left Wing Feminist Books, Get Rich Quick, and Snake Oil books...
The next time you consider using the headache excuse to avoid getting busy, think about this: It pays to have more sex. Literally, new research finds.
People who have sex four times or more a week earn higher wages than their less-sexually active colleagues at a statistically significant level, according to a discussion paper from Nick Drydakis, a fellow at the Institute for the Study of Labor, a private, independent organization focused on labor market research.
To come up with the findings, Drydakis, who is also an economics lecturer in the business school at Cambridge, England-based Angila Ruskin University, analyzed a year-long survey of 7,500 Greek households. The survey asked the representative sample respondents how many times they had sex per week, whether they were employed, how much money they made and how many hours per week they worked, among other questions.
But before you rush to go between the sheets, it’s important to note that Drydakis' findings don't indicate that more sex directly translates into a raise. Instead, the study found that the two factors are correlated. See, people who have frequent sex tend to be happier, have higher self-esteem, better reasoning ability and are less likely to be depressed. Other research has found that workers with health problems tend to make less money due to limited productivity and in some cases, discrimination.
So to recap: More sex makes you healthier and happier. And happy, healthy people tend make more money.
Another factor may explain the positive correlation between more sex and higher wages. People who make more money are often more desirable in the dating market, which means they likely have more sex. Drydakis acknowledges this possibility in his paper, but laments that there isn’t really any literature out there directly addressing this theory.
Regardless, the positive relationship between sex and more money exists, his research claims, and workers between the ages of 26 and 50 tend to get higher financial returns on their sexual activity. But it doesn’t matter if you’re gay or straight, you get the same wage returns on your investment in sexual activity. So everyone have at it.

Snake Oil: Rhonda Byrne Is Not The Prophet Muhammad or Jesus

There would be more than 19,000,000 and counting of those minutes given that is the number of copies of The Secret that have been sold to date. And that doesn't include collateral minutes born of purchases of her CDs, DVDs, wall calendars, key rings, and assorted other inspirational tchotchkes available for sale. Plus, her new book, The Power, is now number one on the New York Times advice bestseller list, so there are many more minutes ahead for many more suckers to be born.
After reading a recent New York Times essayabout these two books authored by Rhonda Byrne, I got to thinking about what makes her messages so compelling and why so many believe her ideas even though they seem so implausible as to be laughable.
Ms. Byrne's basic premise is that people can get what they want in life -- happiness, love, wealth -- simply by thinking positively about what they want. For example, if I want to be rich, I'm just going to think about getting money and the Law of Attraction dictates that wealth will come to me. Hey, I believe in the power of positive thinking, but only as a first step to motivate me to do the work necessary to achieve my goals. But maybe all that effort wasn't really necessary!
In my view, Ms. Byrne is the latest in a long history of American shakedown artists, from the snake-oil salesmen of the Old West to the grifters of the early 20th century to the motivational speakers of today. What do they have in common? All make impossible-to-fulfill promises and outlandish claims. They create a persuasive vocabulary around their ideas that resonate with people. These charlatans tell convincing narratives in support of their beliefs. And they use the authority of others (e.g., philosophers and scientists) to buttress their absurd assertions. But what I find most remarkable is the fact that so many people accept her blather as gospel.
I have to hand it to Ms. Byrne though; she has a masterful understanding of the human mind. She plays the human psyche, as the saying goes, like a drum. She exploits one of our greatest human weaknesses, namely, the belief that we can get something for nothing, that we can achieve our goals without any blood, sweat, or tears. What I find fascinating about this is that it flies in the face of reality for about 99.99% of the people on Earth (the other .01% are either lucky or born rich). Sure, there are exceptions, such as lottery winners and the victors on reality TV shows, both, by the way, statistical impossibilities for everyone. The ability of people to delude themselves, even when repeated attempts to apply the laws and powers described by Ms. Byrne fail miserably, and even with clear and consistent evidence to the contrary from our daily lives, is astonishing and puzzling for anyone who tries to understand the human psyche.
Ms. Byrne also takes advantage of every cognitive bias at her disposal to mislead and manipulate people. There is the bandwagon effect in which people want to do things that others are doing ("19,000,000 people can't be wrong, can they? And I don't want to miss out!"). The confirmation bias which involves looking for and interpreting information that confirms one's preconceived notions. There is the illusion of control where people tend to overestimate the control they have over events. Then there is argument from authority in which Ms. Byrne references and quotes philosophers, scientists, and other deep thinkers to give her ideas an air of legitimacy where none actually exists. What about illusory correlation which is the tendency of people to assume cause-effect relationships where one doesn't actually exist (e.g., I thought about an old friend and he emailed me the next day). And don't forget the granddaddy of them all, wishful thinking that involves forming beliefs and making decisions based on what one wants rather than on reason or evidence. The list goes on and on. The more you learn about cognitive biases, the more amazed you are that people ever make rational decisions.
Ms. Byrne also uses the vocabulary of science to add credibility to her decidedly unscientific assertions. As the New York Times article discusses, she talks a lot about magnetic properties, frequencies, energy, and the universe. She even throws in quantum physics to build her case. Ms. Byrne sure has chutzpah; she has the audacity to state that the Law of Attraction is an actual physical force akin to the Law of Gravity! Of course, she offers no scientific evidence to support her crazy ideas. Why should she if tens of millions of people will just take her at her word.
What does this ready embrace of the outlandish and the impossible say about people? Are people so gullible that they are willing to plunk down $25 for The Answer (the name of another one of these shyster books, by the way), in fact, any answer that they want to hear. Are people so lazy that they are willing to believe anyone who tells them they can have everything without doing anything? Or are we just victims of the human mind and the myriad biases and distortions of reality that lie within it?
Perhaps to acknowledge the absurdity of the Law of Attraction would be to admit that wealth, fame, love, happiness, and other dreams aren't within reach for most people. And to do so would be to surrender to the meaninglessness and hopelessness of life itself. But the real harm that Ms. Byrne and her ilk bring upon their feckless audience, beyond the vast amounts of money and time that are wasted, is that it prevents people from doing the work necessary and making the changes to actually make their dreams come true.

Christian View: Changing Allegiance From Parents To Spouse

Changing Allegiance From Parents To Spouse

In Genesis 2:24 we read, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” This principle is repeated in Ephesians 5:31. God’s pattern for marriage involves the “leaving” of parents and the “cleaving” to one’s mate. Marriage involves a change of allegiance. Before marriage, one’s allegiance is to one’s parents, but after marriage allegiance shifts to one’s mate.

It is what the psychologists call “cutting the psychological apron strings.” No longer does the individual lean on his parents, but rather on his mate. If there is a conflict of interest between a man’s wife and his mother, the husband is to stand with his wife. This does not mean that the mother is to be treated unkindly. That is the second principle, which we will deal with shortly. The principle of separating from parents is, however, extremely important. No couple will reach their full potential in marriage without this psychological break from parents.

What does this principle mean in the practical realm? I believe that it suggests separate living arrangements for the newly married couple. While living with parents, the couple cannot develop independence as readily as when living alone. The dependency on parents is enhanced as long as they live with parents.

Living in a meager apartment with the freedom to develop their own lifestyle under God is better than luxurious living in the shadow of parents. Parents should encourage such independence, and the ability to provide such living accommodations should be a factor in setting the wedding date.

The principle of “leaving” parents is also important in decision making. Your parents may have suggestions about many aspects of your married life. Each suggestion should be taken seriously, but, in the final analysis, you must make your own decision. You should no longer make decisions on the basis of what would make parents happy but on the basis of what would make your partner happy. Under God, you are a new unit, brought together by His Spirit to live for each other (Philippians 2:3-4).
This means that the time may come when a husband must sit down with his mother and say,
“Mom, you know that I love you very much, but you also know that I am now married. I cannot break up my marriage in order to do what you desire. I love you, and I want to help you, but I must do what I believe is right for my wife and me. I hope you understand because I want to continue the warm relationship that we have had through the years. But if you do not understand, then that is a problem you must work through. I must give myself to the building of my marriage.”
…The principle of separation from parents also has implications when conflict arises in marriage. A young wife who has always leaned heavily on her mother will have a tendency to “run to mother” when problems arise in the marriage. The next day her husband recognizes that he was wrong, asks forgiveness, and harmony is restored. The daughter fails to tell her mother this. The next time a conflict arises she again confides in Mom. This becomes a pattern, and before long, her mother has a bitter attitude toward the son-in-law and is encouraging the daughter to separate from him. The daughter has been very unfair to her husband and has failed to follow the principle of “leaving” parents.

If you have conflicts in your marriage (and most of us do), seek to solve them by direct confrontation with your mate. Conflict should be a stepping-stone to growth. If you find that you need outside help, then go to your pastor or a Christian marriage counselor. They are trained and equipped by God to give practical help. They can be objective and give biblical guidelines. Parents find it almost impossible to be objective.

Honoring Parents The second principle relating to our relationship with parents is found in Exodus 20:12 and is one of the Ten Commandments: “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” It is repeated in Deuteronomy 5:16 andEphesians 6:2.
The command to honor our parents has never been rescinded. As long as they live, it is right to honor them. In Ephesians 6:1, Paul says, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.”Obedience to parents is the guideline from birth to marriage. Paul’s second statement is, “Honor your father and mother—which is the first commandment with a promise—that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth” (vs. 2-3). Honor to parents is the guideline from birth to death. Honor was the original command and stands forever.

The word honor means “to show respect.” It involves treating one with kindness and dignity. It is true that not all parents live respectable lives. Their actions may not be worthy of honor, but because they are made in the image of God, they are worthy of honor. You can respect them for their humanity and for their position as your parents, even when you cannot respect their actions. It is always right to honor your parents and those of your marriage partner. “Leaving” parents for the purpose of marriage does not erase the responsibility to honor them.

How is this honor expressed in daily life? You honor them in such practical actions as visiting, telephoning, and writing, whereby you communicate to them that you still love them and want to share life with them. “Leaving” must never be interpreted as “deserting.” Regular contact is essential to honoring parents. Failure to communicate with parents is saying, in effect, “I no longer care.”

A further word is necessary regarding communication with parents. Equal treatment of both sets of parents must be maintained. Remember, “For God does not show favoritism” (Romans 2:11). We must follow His example. In practice, this means that our letters, telephone calls, and visits must indicate our commitment to the principle of equality. If one set of parents is phoned once a month, then the other set should be phoned once a month. If one receives a letter once a week, then the other should receive the same. The couple should also seek to be equitable in visits, dinners, and vacations.

Perhaps the stickiest situations arise around holidays—Thanksgiving and Christmas. The wife’s mother wants them home for Christmas Eve. The husband’s mother wants them home for Christmas dinner. That may be possible if they live in the same town, but when they are five hundred miles apart, it becomes impossible. The solution must be based on the principle of equality. This may mean Christmas with one set of parents one year and with the other the following year.

To “honor” implies also that we speak kindly with parents and in-laws. Paul admonishes: “Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were father” (1 Timothy 5:1). We are to be understanding and sympathetic. Certainly we are to speak the truth, but it must always be in love(Ephesians 4:15).
The command of Ephesians 4:31-32 must be taken seriously in our relationship with parents: “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
A further implication of honor to parents is described in 1 Timothy 5:4“But if a widow has children and grandchildren, these should learn first of all to put their religion into practice by caring for their own family and so repaying their parents and grandparents, for this is pleasing to God.”
When we were young, our parents met our physical needs. As they grow older, we may have to do the same for them. If and when the need arises, we must bear the responsibility of caring for the physical needs of our parents. To fail in this responsibility is to deny our faith in Christ (1 Timothy 5:8). By our actions, we must show our faith in Christ and honor for our parents.

If I could make some other practical suggestions, I would advise you to accept your in-laws as they are. Do not feel that it is your task to change them. If they are not Christians, certainly you will want to pray for them and look for opportunities to present Christ, but do not try to fit them into your mold. You are expecting them to give you independence to develop your own marriage. Give them the same.

Do not criticize your in-laws to your mate. The responsibility of your mate is to honor his parents. When you criticize them, you make it more difficult for him to follow this pattern. When your mate criticizes the weaknesses of his parents, you should point out their strengths. Accentuate their positive qualities and encourage honor.

The Bible gives some beautiful examples of wholesome relationships between individuals and their in-laws. Moses had such a wholesome relationship with Jethro, his father-in-law, that, when he informed him of God’s call to leave Midian and lead the Israelites out of Egypt, Jethro said, “Go, and I wish you well” (Exodus 4:18). Later on, after the success of Moses’ venture, his father-in-law came to see him.
“So Moses went out to meet his father-in-law and bowed down and kissed him. They greeted each other and then went into the tent” (Exodus 18:7). It was on this visit that Jethro gave Moses the advice that we discussed earlier. His openness to his father-in-law’s suggestion shows something of the nature of their relationship.

Ruth and Naomi serve as an example of the devotion of a daughter-in-law to her mother-in-law after the death of both husbands. Jesus directed one of His miracles to the mother-in-law of Peter, and she in turn ministered to Jesus (Matthew 8:14-15).

Freedom and harmony are the biblical ideals for in-law relationships. The train of God’s will for marriage must run on the parallel tracks of separation from parents and devotion to parents.
The above article comes from the book, Toward a Growing Marriage, written by Dr Gary Chapman, which was published by Moody Press (unfortunately, it is no longer being published). This book is divided into two sections: Premarital Growth and Marital Growth. The first section is designed for people who are in the process of becoming the kind of persons who will be “fitting,” or “suitable,” marriage partners. The second section speaks to those couples who have already said “I do” and are now trying to fulfill that commitment.

Barobax: Ghodrat Dasteh Khanoomas

There is so much truth in this song!

Hillarious yet true lyrics! LOL

"migan ghodrat daste khanoomas vayyyyyyyyyy bar axe ghadimast ayyyyyyyyyyyyy kharjetunam ke balast Sham nadarim ahh soso kalbas Chon kar dare koly dars dare / madrakaye cherto pertesh ye khar bare asan hagh dare madare bacheye man / ke tu kheili az kalameha az vazheye zan mese ham zan mese arzan mese defae man az hoghooghe zan / nobooghe zano dar eine gheibat kardan dar hale kam kardane vaznan kheili tizan bazi rizan MASHALLAH bazi arizan / banalesbat bazi marizan mese mahi sor mikhoran LIZAN." -BAROBAX

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Economy: Student Loans, Bankruptcy, & Unemployment in America


"Heaven" by Depeche Mode (Freemason Mix)



Awesome lyrics...

"Heaven"

Sometimes I slide away
Silently
I slowly lose myself
Over and over

Take comfort in my skin
Endlessly
Surrender to my will
Forever and ever

I dissolve in trust
I will sing with joy
I will end up dust
I'm in heaven

I stand in golden rays
Radiantly
I burn a fire of love
Over and over

Reflecting endless light
Relentlessly
I have embraced the flame
Forever and ever

I will scream The Word
Jump into the void
I will guide the herd
Up to heaven

-Depeche Mode, "Heaven"

Lone Survivor: "Anything worth doing is worth over-doing...moderation is for Cowards"

This looks like an excellent movie...

Lone Survivor: "Anything worth doing is worth over-doing...moderation is for Cowards" 

AI Marriages?

"HER": Interesting movie...Artificial Intelligence turning into human intelligence and emotion. With all the technology being exponentially created, who knows, this movie could become science fact.